Chapter summaries It Starts with Us: a Novel Colleen Hoover

Chapter Thirty-Six: Lily – New Home, Old Secrets

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Summary

Lily has moved into Atlas’s house and spent the day unpacking with help from Josh and Theo. While watching Finding Nemo, Theo puzzles over Atlas’s comment about “finally reaching the shore,” then realizes Atlas meant that life will no longer be a struggle to “keep swimming.” Josh learns Theo is going to a pride parade and asks to join, handling the revelation with casual acceptance. Lily allows Josh to stay over at Theo’s. Alone for the first time in her new home, Lily explores the house and sits on the deck, imagining a garden. Atlas video-calls and admits he’s starting to miss Emerson. When Lily’s mother returns with Emerson, she reveals she always knew Atlas was the boy from Maine. She recounts catching them asleep together years ago: instead of yelling, Atlas gave her a knowing hug, which she now understands as genuine compassion. Touched, Lily texts Atlas her love.

Key Events

  • Lily, Josh, and Theo finish watching Finding Nemo.
  • Theo deciphers Atlas’s “shore” metaphor as perseverance.
  • Josh learns Theo is attending a pride parade and asks to go.
  • Lily permits Josh to stay at Theo’s house.
  • Lily video-calls Atlas, who confesses he’s growing attached to Emerson.
  • Lily’s mother returns and reveals she always recognized Atlas.
  • Mother recounts the night Atlas hugged her after being caught.
  • Lily texts Atlas an affectionate message.

Character Development

  • Lily: Embraces her new role as co‑parent and partner, feeling excitement about building a life with Atlas.
  • Atlas (mentioned): Shows vulnerability by admitting he’s bonding with Emerson, signaling his commitment to Lily’s family.
  • Josh: Demonstrates maturity and open‑mindedness by accepting Theo’s identity and wanting to attend the parade.
  • Theo: Courageously reveals his plans to Josh, trusting their friendship.
  • Lily’s mother: Steps out of her usual silence to share a hidden memory, revealing her silent support of Lily’s relationship with Atlas.

Themes, Symbols, or Motifs

  • Home and Belonging: Lily repeatedly calls the house “ours” and imagines a garden, symbolizing her rootedness with Atlas.
  • Acceptance and Identity: Josh’s immediate, easy acceptance of Theo’s pride parade invitation contrasts with the older generation’s struggles, highlighting generational progress.
  • Past and Present: The mother’s story about Atlas’s hug bridges Lily’s teenage secret with her current happiness, showing how past kindness can echo into the future.
  • Communication: Multiple conversations (Atlas’s confession, mother’s revelation, Theo’s disclosure) show that honesty strengthens relationships.

Why This Chapter Matters

Chapter 36 marks a turning point in Lily’s integration into Atlas’s world. She physically occupies “our couch” and emotionally bonds with his family, allowing Josh to make his own choices. The mother’s long‑kept secret retroactively validates Atlas’s character, proving he was never a threat. The pride parade subtext normalizes Theo’s identity without drama, reinforcing the novel’s theme of chosen family and unconditional support.

Study Questions and Answers

1. Why does Theo initially misinterpret Atlas’s “shore” comment, and what does his later understanding reveal about the novel’s message?
Theo thinks it’s a direct movie quote; he expects the line “finally reach the shore” to appear in Finding Nemo. When he realizes Atlas was paraphrasing the “keep swimming” motto, he understands that Atlas promised Lily that the exhausting struggle of her past is over. This moment underscores the novel’s central idea that endurance leads to a safe harbor.

2. What does Lily’s mother’s story about the hug reveal about Atlas’s character, and why does it matter now?
The hug shows Atlas’s empathy: even when caught in a compromising situation, he comforted Lily’s mother instead of defending himself. Years later, the memory proves he has always been “considerate Atlas” and reassures Lily that her mother silently approved of their relationship all along.

3. How does Josh’s reaction to the pride parade illustrate the generational shift in attitudes about LGBTQ+ identity?
Josh shrugs off any potential awkwardness and immediately asks to join, saying he “likes girls” but that doesn’t exclude him from attending. His casual, matter‑of‑fact response—coupled with his earlier comment about manga revealing personality—shows a generation less burdened by prejudice and more focused on supporting friends.

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