Chapter 18: 2019 – Summary and Analysis

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Summary

The 2019 diary opens with Sedaris joking about “prescription windows” while visiting with his friend Ingrid, and then undergoing a cystoscopy in London. He and Hugh bid on a New York apartment (a Classic 7 on East Sixty-Second) and later close on it. In February, Sedaris learns he has been elected to the American Academy of Arts and Letters, a lifelong honor that leaves him feeling like an impostor among literary gods. Shortly after, his father Lou is hospitalized with fluid in his lungs and heart failure. Sedaris visits him in Raleigh, but feels emotionally numb while Hugh cries on his behalf. Over the spring and summer, Sedaris tours extensively, meeting fans who share bizarre stories: a woman whose daughter posed with a giant wooden penis, a man who wore a dead actor’s crematorium jacket, and a “standardized patient” who charges per finger for prostate exams. He also encounters a pigeon with a racing band that refuses to leave his patio, and travels to Serbia and Bosnia, observing the run-down streets and pervasive smoking. In December, Sedaris visits his father again at Springmoor; Lou is frail, forgetful, and calls him “buddy,” which feels jarring. The year ends with a birthday celebration at home where Amy gives facials and the family plays Sorry with cruel rules. Sedaris reflects on aging, his father’s mortality, and the disconnect between public success and private pain.

Key Events

Sedaris undergoes a cystoscopy and reveals the procedure to strangers for shock value.
He buys a Classic 7 apartment in New York after evaluating Judge Judy’s former home.
Election to the American Academy of Arts and Letters triggers imposter syndrome.
Father Lou is hospitalized with heart failure; Sedaris feels nothing, Hugh cries.
Sedaris retrieves a Comme des Garçons jacket with a tattered second layer, using it to humiliate a rude customer at the tailor.
A woman on a London bus loudly commands traffic from her seat; Sedaris descends to hear her better.
He misreads a banner as “SORRY YOU’RE LIVING” instead of “LEAVING.”
Sedaris tells a Q&A audience that flying first class avoids overweight seatmates – a self-aware classist comment.
At an Iowa City signing, a man admits he stole a dead actor’s jacket from a crematorium.
Sedaris’s father recovers enough to call and berate him (“You say you like to read … but what have you really done with your life?”), prompting the remark “He’s back!”
A racing pigeon appears on the patio; Hugh tries to help it but the bird flies off.
In Serbia, Sedaris notes the prevalence of beards, smoking, and bombed-out buildings from NATO strikes.
He visits his father in December, seeing him frail, eating soup with a straw, and being called “buddy” – a word that feels wrong.
The birthday celebration includes a board-game session where the loser becomes a slave, and Amy applies expensive face cream.

Character Development

David Sedaris: Continues to use dark humor as armor, especially regarding his health (telling strangers about his cystoscopy) and his father’s decline (feeling “nothing” while Hugh weeps). His election to the Academy exposes a deep insecurity – he fears he does not deserve his place. He also shows a rare moment of vulnerability when watching his father eat soup with a straw, admitting he wanted to cry. The year forces him to confront the permanence of death and the impossibility of separating the old, frail Lou from the cruel father of his memory.

Hugh: Takes on the emotional labor for both of them, crying over Sedaris’s father and over his own father’s book. He is pragmatic and caretaking – wrapping his swollen elbow, calling animal rescue for the pigeon, and coaching Sedaris for the co-op board interview.

Lou Sedaris: Now ninety-six, frail, with white Beatles-length hair, eating with a bib and a straw. He still has flashes of his old, critical self – berating Sedaris on the phone – but also calls him “buddy,” a word that feels deeply incongruous to Sedaris. His decline is the chapter’s emotional core.

Amy Sedaris: Appears briefly in Christmas shopping and the birthday celebration, dominating the room with her brash humor and demanding nature.

Themes, Symbols, or Motifs

Aging and mortality: The cystoscopy, father’s heart failure, Sedaris’s own increased weight and gray hair, and the centenarian Doris at Springmoor all underscore physical decline.
Family estrangement and longing: Sedaris’s numbness toward his father contrasts with his desire for a positive memory. The line “Ah, the either” captures the mutual lack of love.
Humor as coping mechanism: Sedaris injects jokes into nearly every grim situation – from the cystoscopy to the “whore” misunderstanding to the tattoo suggestion “I have full-blown AIDS.”
Prestige and imposter syndrome: The Academy election reads like a Mount Olympus fantasy, yet Sedaris worries his name will make the list laughable.
Observation of the eccentric: The bus woman, the pigeon, the standardized patient, and the crematorium jacket all serve as raw material for Sedaris’s comic lens.

Why This Chapter Matters

This chapter is a turning point in the family narrative. The father who tormented Sedaris for decades is now physically helpless, forcing Sedaris to wrestle with unresolved anger and the absence of love. The sudden, sharp pain of seeing Lou fragile and sweet (eating soup with a straw, saying “That’s my buddy”) is complicated by the fact that Sedaris still cannot trust him. Meanwhile, Sedaris’s career reaches a new peak with the Academy membership, yet he feels unworthy. The chapter juxtaposes public achievement with private grief, showing that success does not heal old wounds. The year closes with a warm but chaotic birthday scene, suggesting that chosen family (Hugh, Amy, Adam) provides the comfort blood family never did.

Study Questions and Answers

How does Sedaris use humor to manage his emotions about his father’s decline?
Sedaris deflects by focusing on the absurd or the shocking. When Hugh cries, Sedaris says, “You want to be the emotional one on this? Fine by me.” He also dwells on the 2012 visit when his father was a “dick” rather than on the present vulnerability. The humor masks pain but also reveals his inability to process love.
What does the election to the American Academy of Arts and Letters reveal about Sedaris’s self-perception?
He feels like an impostor, worrying that his name will cause others to “question the entire institution.” Despite decades of success, he still sees himself as the outsider writing in a kitchen in Raleigh or Chicago. The honor validates his career but does not quiet his inner doubt.
Sedaris often uses strangers’ stories as commentary. Choose one encounter (e.g., the bus woman or the standardized patient) and explain what it reveals about his worldview.
The bus woman who shouts at traffic embodies the internal rage Sedaris admits to having (“sidewalk rage”). Her imperious, unhinged monologue mirrors his own silent judgments. By descending the stairs to hear her better, Sedaris aligns himself with the chaos, suggesting that his observational humor is a more socially acceptable version of that same fury.