Chapter 11: 2012 – Travel, Family, and the Year’s Tragedies

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Summary

The chapter opens in Australia and Japan, where Sedaris collects odd encounters: a T‑shirt joke about Tourette’s, a McDonald’s burger named after US cities, and linguistic differences (Japanese has no word for “hate”). Back in England, he pursues a litter‑cleaning obsession with Councillor Andrew Baldwin, and later clashes with Hugh over using a chain saw. Traveling through the US, Sedaris provokes a failed dirty joke at an airport, endures a road trip with Tim (whose mother was a hoarder of Barbies), and confronts upselling at the Boise airport. The emotional core is a visit to North Carolina: his father criticizes his appearance, reveals he voted for Amendment 1 banning gay marriage, and later offers a confusing inheritance talk. Sedaris also visits Phyllis Diller in LA, observes Election Day 2012, reacts to anti‑abortion billboards, and ends the year processing the Sandy Hook shooting while in London and Paris, wrapping gifts and listening to Obama’s memorial speech.

Key Events

Sedaris hears a T‑shirt joke: “What do we want? A cure for Tourette’s. When do we want it? Cunt.”
In Tokyo, Reiko explains the Japanese phrases for “don’t like” and “grandmother.”
Hugh forbids Sedaris from using the chain saw, calling him “uncoordinated.”
Sedaris goes litter‑picking with Councillor Andrew Baldwin.
He tells a crude Willie Nelson joke to an airport check‑in agent and immediately regrets it.
Road trip to St. Louis: Tim reveals his mother died after a colonoscopy and left 300 Barbies.
Sedaris angrily confronts a ticket agent for chatting too slowly.
Visit to Phyllis Diller in LA; she is coping with dementia but still sharp.
Father Lou criticizes Sedaris’s jacket and little glasses, then admits he voted for Amendment 1.
Sedaris tours his childhood home; his father offers art, a monkey toy, and eventually an inheritance talk.
He has lunch with Gretchen Anderson, who enthusiastically discusses a Pygmy skeleton.
After tripping in a small car at a garden show, Sedaris is mortified.
Election Day 2012: Obama wins; Sedaris thinks “We won!” after seeing a Romney supporter disappointed.
Anti‑abortion billboards in Minnesota lead to darkly comic riffs about fetal abilities.
Sedaris accidentally tucks his jacket into his trousers and walks around Santa Fe unnoticed.
He reacts to the Sandy Hook school shooting, criticizing the argument that teachers should be armed.
Gretchen arrives for Christmas and shares a story about drinking “butt juice.”

Character Development

David Sedaris emerges more politically vocal than in earlier diary years. He openly confronts his father’s homophobia, grapples with his own social awkwardness, and channels grief into sarcastic commentary. His obsession with litter symbolizes a need for control in a chaotic world.
Hugh remains the practical, protective partner, blocking Sedaris from dangerous tools.
Lou Sedaris is a complex figure: bigoted and critical, yet vulnerable and eager to pass on a legacy.
Gretchen Anderson is a model of enthusiasm and resilience, a counterpoint to the year’s tragedies.
Phyllis Diller appears as a fading star, still lucid enough to mock prayer and make people laugh.

Themes, Symbols, or Motifs

Family conflict and reconciliation – The argument over Amendment 1 and the tentative inheritance discussion show a strained but enduring bond.
Gun violence and political division – The Sandy Hook entry directly engages with the gun‑control debate and the absurd blaming of gay marriage.
Absurdity of everyday life – A dog with Alzheimer’s, a mole killed with a “fork,” and a jacket tucked into trousers highlight Sedaris’s comedic lens.
Mortality and legacy – Discussions of wills, the father’s scholarship fund, and visiting elderly friends underscore the passage of time.
Litter as a symbol – Cleaning rubbish becomes a metaphor for confronting societal mess, both literal and emotional.

Why This Chapter Matters

2012 is a watershed year in the diary: it captures the Obama re‑election, the national trauma of Sandy Hook, and a personal rift with Sedaris’s father over gay rights. The chapter deepens the memoir’s political dimension while retaining the signature observational humor. It also shows Sedaris’s evolution from merely documenting oddities to openly engaging with moral and social issues.

Study Questions and Answers

1. How does Sedaris portray his father’s views on gay marriage, and how does he respond?
Sedaris’s father admits voting for Amendment 1, which banned gay marriage and civil unions in North Carolina. Sedaris immediately challenges him, arguing that it sends the wrong message to kids and that his granddaughter has a gay aunt who wants to marry. The confrontation ends with his father refusing to explain further, and Sedaris feels a deep, unresolved breach.

2. What role does litter play in Sedaris’s self‑image?
Sedaris’s obsessive litter‑picking—first alone, then with Councillor Baldwin—represents a desire to impose order on a world he finds chaotic. It also gives him a sense of purpose and identity, especially when Baldwin praises him. Later, he associates litter with the “trash pile” of teddy bears left after Sandy Hook, linking his hobby to larger grief.

3. How does Sedaris use humor to process the Sandy Hook shooting?
He mocks the argument that arming teachers would have prevented the massacre by quipping, “Why not arm the kids?” He also ridicules the idea that God must be invited back into schools “like a vampire.” This gallows humor allows him to express outrage while keeping emotional numbness at bay.