Chapter Fifty-Four: The Night They Were Still Children

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Summary (Complete and Chronological)

The chapter opens the evening after Joar’s father’s accident. The friends have just left the hospital chapel. Joar almost dies in the car – but it is actually Ali who nearly kills them both. She is a reckless driver, just as she was a poor swimmer when they first met. That evening, Ali tells the group that her father got a new job in a distant town because he owes dangerous people money. They must move away.

Up on the roof with Louisa, Joar recounts the night. He admits he didn’t cry after his dad’s accident, nor did he cry when Ali told them she was leaving. He told her it was “good” because this small town would never let her be her full self. She angrily replied that he could go to Hell if he wasn’t going to miss her. He then told her the truth: he would never fall in love with anyone again. She kissed him – only the second time she had ever done so.

Louisa observes that they were a love story. Joar explains that Ali had to leave because her dad needed her. He then tells her about the art competition. He and Ali spent the evening driving, finally stopping on a hill where they fell asleep in each other’s arms. On the drive back, Ali nearly crashed into a brick wall, stopping at the last second. She screamed, “Now you know!” meaning she had shown him that he didn’t really want to die. She made him promise not to die before she returned, and she whispered that maybe one day they could both be “ordinary enough.”

Back at Joar’s apartment, the four friends cleaned and talked. Ali found an old Superman figure and questioned the cape’s purpose. Kimkim explained that capes show movement in comics; Ted added that Superman’s cape was actually his baby blanket. The thought made them all lie on the floor, staring at the ceiling. Ali asked if they would forget her; they teased “definitely,” then Ted said they couldn’t even remember life before her. They made promises of trust and loyalty. They framed Kimkim’s painting, made from driftwood Joar had collected by the sea that night.

Joar calls this one of his strongest memories, one he thought about every night in prison. Louisa then shares what her daughter Fish once said: in Heaven, you get to choose one moment from your life to feel forever – one single really good “now” is enough. Joar says he has had millions of nows.

The chapter ends with a terrible discovery. Joar had hidden the newspaper ad for the art competition. When he finds it and sees the date, he is relieved – it’s a week away. But then Ali reads the fine print: maximum age thirteen. They are older. It is a competition for children, and they are no longer children. Joar finally cries.

Key Events

Ali announces she is moving away with her father.
Joar and Ali share a night together: driving, nearly crashing, and falling asleep on a hill.
They promise to reunite one day; she makes him swear not to die.
The friends clean Joar’s apartment and discuss Superman’s cape.
The four friends lie on the floor making heartfelt promises of trust.
They frame Kimkim’s painting, which later appears in an exclusive art auction.
Joar discovers the art competition has an age limit of 13 – they are too old.
Joar cries for the first time since his father’s accident.

Character Development

Joar: This chapter reveals his deep, unspoken love for Ali and his vulnerability. He admits he did not cry after the accident or when she left, but the discovery of the age limit finally breaks his composure. His memory of this night sustained him in prison, showing how formative this loss was.
Ali: She is impulsive, fierce, and devoted. She risks her life to teach Joar he wants to live. Her departure is not a betrayal but a necessity forced by family obligation. She trusts the boys completely and extracts a promise that they will not forget her.
Louisa: Through her questions and her story about Fish’s “Heaven” theory, she draws out Joar’s emotional truth. Her observation that he and Ali were a “love story” frames the entire memory. She recognizes that Joar, like her, cannot abandon people who need him.
Ted and Kimkim: Their playful conversation about Superman’s cape reveals their own quiet depth. Ted’s interpretation (the cape as a baby blanket) adds weight to the theme of childhood and loss. Kimkim’s attempt to demonstrate the cape’s function leads to the group lying together, a moment of pure connection.

Themes, Symbols, or Motifs

Time and limits: The art competition’s age limit is a brutal marker of childhood’s end. The friends had not realized they had already aged out. The word “now” appears repeatedly (the drive, the floor, the heaven moment) – a motif that contrasts the brief “now” of youth with the long prison sentence Joar later serves.
Movement and direction: Ali’s driving – both reckless and precise – symbolizes her desire to push Joar toward life. The cape in comics shows movement; Ted reframes it as the blanket that carried Superman away from home, mirroring Ali’s own forced departure.
The driftwood frame: The painting that smells of the sea years later ties this night to the larger story of Kimkim’s art and the auction. It is a tangible reminder of a lost time.
Money and obligation: Ali’s father owes money; this is the reason she must leave. The competition is for money (rich people love food, Joar jokes). The economic pressures that shape these characters’ lives run underneath the personal drama.

Why This Chapter Matters

This is a turning point in Joar’s emotional arc. It is the first time the reader witnesses him weep, and it comes not from violence or prison, but from a bureaucratic deadline that redefines the friends’ identities. It solidifies why Joar’s bond with the group – especially Ali – is the bedrock of his entire life story. The chapter also plants the seed for Kimkim’s painting’s later significance and gives context to the lonely memories Joar clung to during his incarceration. Louisa’s presence as listener allows Joar to finally speak these memories aloud, deepening her own understanding of his character.

Study Questions and Answers

1. Why does Ali nearly crash the car on purpose, and what does she mean by “Now you know!”?
Ali wants to prove to Joar that deep down he does not want to die. By driving fast toward a wall and stopping at the last moment, she forces him to feel the adrenaline and the instinct to survive. Her words mean that now he knows he still wants to live, even after his father’s accident and her impending departure.

2. What is the significance of the Superman cape discussion among the friends?
The cape serves multiple symbolic functions. Kimkim first says it is a comic-book device to show movement, suggesting that the friends are at a point where they are still moving through childhood. Ted then offers a more poignant interpretation: it is the blanket Superman’s parents wrapped him in when they sent him away from Krypton. This resonates with Ali’s imminent forced departure and the theme of being sent away by family. The moment makes them all stop and lie on the floor, acknowledging the weight of growing up.

3. Why does the discovery that the art competition is for children aged 13 and under make Joar cry?
Joar had pinned all his hopes on this competition as a way to achieve something meaningful after his father’s accident. Seeing the age limit forces him to realize that he and his friends are no longer children and that their window for certain kinds of innocence and possibility has closed. It is a devastating confrontation with the passage of time, made worse because he had read the ad many times but missed that vital detail. The tears release months of suppressed grief and disappointment.